The Power of Walking & Talking and TV’s Fascination with it

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Walking and talking in nature to problem-solve: this inherently human experience seems now to have transferred onto our TV screens. From BBC’s Walking With…… to Pilgrimage and Channel 4’s Bill Bailey’s Perfect Pub Walks, these shows shine a light on conversation, connection, nature and mental wellbeing between people. As a Life Coach whose practice revolves around walking in nature, these programmes are luring me in..!

Take BBC’s Walking With…, where celebrities like Nick Grimshaw take a solo stroll with a 360-degree camera. There’s simplicity to it; the individual allows thoughts to emerge out loud and we are privy to their internal dialogue. No feigned celeb banter, nature and reflective thinking are the companions. We get a glimpse into ‘the person’ in under 30 minutes.

Then there’s Pilgrimage: a group of celebs walk an ancient route, and earlier this year they visited Anglesey. Their shared journey is both physically and figuratively a pilgrimage, a journey into understanding themselves and others, with a spiritual and faith lens.

Finally, Channel 4’s Bill Bailey’s Perfect Pub Walks blends exactly this, along with nature and men’s mental health. Watching Bill and guest Shaun Ryder (Happy Mondays) walk and laugh – and it’s a bloody joy to see Ryder clean and coherent because he’s very funny and real, was a reminder of how walking in nature can metaphorically pave the way to opening up. In this context, about mental health/wellness/addiction conversations. As an aside, I have visited all but one of the featured pubs in the Dorset and Suffolk episodes, and can vouch for the local ales!

(Keep reading for outdoor coaching questions, and a free guide when you join my mailing list; ‘How to Slow Down and Unlock your Potential, Outdoors’).

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Sydenham Hill Wood, Autumn 2024

Attention Restoration Theory (ART)

So why am I, like others, gently (and this word is key) hooked on these shows?
If you’ve ever found yourself gazing out of the window at a tree, the stars or clouds, you’ve probably experienced the restorative effects of ‘Attention Restoration Theory (ART). Environmental psychologists Rachel Kaplan and Steven Kaplan suggest that as well as being enjoyable, being in or looking at nature, can help us;

  • improve our focus and ability to concentrate, and
  • relieve mental fatigue

A key component is entering a state of mind where you are gently and effortlessly distracted by nature, called ‘soft fascination’ and examples include;

  • Gazing at clouds
  • Watching or listening to waves lapping at the shore
  • Listening to birdsong

For me, it’s opening the kitchen door and stepping out into the garden every morning: I let the dog out, or potter and drink coffee. It’s mindful, gentle, and it can take a minute or more.

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My Liquidambar tree in our new garden. I’ve loved soaking up the changing vibrant colours – soft fascination

This is the opposite of ‘hard fascination’ i.e. watching television or doing a sport that requires a focused, more intense level of attention. These TV programmes are hard fascination – we focus our concentration on the conversation, and then clips of nature – the soft fascination, soften and relieve our busy heads momentarily. A magical mix? Perhaps this is why we are being pulled in..

Coaching Questions to relieve mental fatigue

I bang on about how walking and being in nature enhances creativity, problem-solving and mental clarity, and reduces stress – why I coach outdoors. So if you’d like to try some quick coaching yourself, I invite you to take these questions out on a walk somewhere restorative (including your local urban park – it still works);

  1. Think of a moment when you experienced soft fascination. What was it that made it restorative?
  2. If you could describe your perfect spot in nature to relieve your busy head, what might that look and feel like?
  3. What role does nature play in your daily or weekly routine, and how could you invite more of it into your life?

There are more coaching questions with an autumnal twist, here.

Final point – where are the women in these walking and nature TV shows? Am I missing something here? If you know a show or podcast with this kind of format featuring women, please let me know so I can update this post – email me. You can also join my midlife women’s coaching walk and talk, monthly in Beckenham Place Park for the real-life, in-person experience!

A note on mental fatigue

If you notice you are regularly mentally fatigued, that is you’re maintaining high levels of focused activity/work, without sufficient rest and this is affecting you, please consider seeking support from your GP, workplace or EAP.

So, if you’re looking for some relief in nature, get outdoors and allow yourself time to absorb nature. Whether it’s a quiet stroll letting your thoughts emerge, or a chat with a friend, let the outdoors gently sink in.

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Client agreement - ground rules.

1. Bring my whole self to this process; professionally and personally.

You cannot separate your professional and personal ‘lives’.

2. Be present in the moment and connected.

… to the coaching; what you’re thinking, feeling, experiencing. And…to nature if and where we are outdoors. If we’re on headphones, I’ll invite you to be descriptive of your environment too.

3. Bring the agenda to each session and keep your overall objective alive.

You can do this in several ways:

  • Be goal and action orientated – bring what you want to discuss and achieve to the session; OR
  • Talk and see what lands – exploratory and intentional.
 

I will bring the process, tools, ideas, resources and best practice to best support you towards your goal/intention/objective. More in your pre-coaching questionnaire. 

4. Give feedback and be responsive.

Coaching is collaborative. Neither of us should guess where we stand. I ask you to give me feedback and respond – you can rely on me to give and do the same.

I aim to get back to you within 24 hours of you emailing me, even if it’s just to say ‘I received your message’ before I respond properly. If it’s over the weekend or holiday, this may take longer.

5. Do the work in the session and in between sessions.

…so that you get the best value, even when it’s challenging. I might suggest a piece of work based on what you brought to the session. Mainly you will decide your course of action.

Whichever way, I’ll invite you to:

  • Reflect more; through walking, writing and whatever else fires you up, to help you achieve your objective.
  • Explore more; be curious and follow those trails of thought, intentionally
    Practice more; habits? Actions? Keep trying/tweaking.
  • Note what’s coming up that’s important or interesting to you in the session. I may share a few bullet points with you after, via Google Docs.

6. Session duration and timescale.

Generally a session is an hour but happy to shorten or increase session lengths, as and when we both can, that day. Where either of us thinks it appropriate, let’s say in the session. Timescale – let’s keep to the timescale agreed in the contract.

Additional information...

  • Coaching is a relationship designed to facilitate the development of personal or professional goals and develop a plan/strategy for achieving those goals.
  • It is comprehensive; it may involve other areas of your life beyond what you may have originally intended. It is your responsibility to choose and decide how to handle this, or even whether to.
  • It can be challenging; digging deep, creating better habits, becoming more self-aware, changing unhelpful beliefs you hold about yourself to something more helpful. There will be ups and downs. You will gain new insights, learnings and perspectives to help you achieve your goal.
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  • I will allow time and space for you to explore your thoughts and think for yourself, no interruptions. There may be long pauses or silence sometimes to elicit more.
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    > If I feel you or I are at risk of harm.
    > Criminal / illegal activity.
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    > I have my own coach and group supervision
    > My CPD includes –  Outdoor Intelligence for Online Coaching (Oct 2020) -Positive Psychology (Feb 2021
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My story

I’d been trying to work out ‘what else’ I could do with my career and life.

After 20 years in HR and with the children getting older, I wanted to change careers, but into ‘what?’ And ‘how’ was that even possible? And…’who would take on a mid-40’s apprentice?’!

I took small steps to boost my confidence and mindset; a regular ‘walk and whinge’ with friends to offload, short courses to up-skill, more running, more netball.
I asked my workplace ‘what else’ they needed that I could help with – ‘job crafting’. 

I was trying to make changes but it wasn’t really working. I was still frustrated and now, more miserable. I needed a different approach to find a way forward and release the building pressure I felt.

Hiring an accredited coach with whom I knew I could work with, enabled me to take a good look at myself – at times, uncomfortably.

To be listened to without any interruption, or judgement was empowering and I started to recognise what made me, me – my personality, strengths, what energised me and made me happy. What if these things amounted to a job I would…love…?

I followed my curiosity and dabbled with ideas about potential jobs, tasks and environments that would suit me, with a new, growth mindset.

I started to shift perspective. When I finally realised the ‘what’, I felt an energy and sense of knowing that was powerful. And I laughed, because it had been right in front of me!

Coaching undoubtedly helped me get to know myself, to see my potential and what was possible. I wholeheartedly decided through those sessions, on what and how I wanted things to be.

It had taken me two years of feeling stuck and miserable and a number of hours to be liberated.

This is what I now do with my clients. I help them rediscover themselves so that they can play to their strengths and thrive.

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